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Darlene Chambers posted a condolence
Friday, August 20, 2021
I left our last conversation knowing you knew the love I still had for you. And yes, you also knew the crazy anger I shared as only a
parent could know. You have always been
special to me, special to Joshua. All three of
us shared a space in time that was of course fraught with chaos (of our own making of
course) and danger, but in the midst of all that nonsense, what we had was special. You did your very best to keep Joshua and I safe from all harm and I will forever be grateful for
your love and care. I knew why James Boy loved you. You were safe, loyal and a gentle. But let’s not get it twisted; you were more than capable of sheltering and protecting those you loved. Joshua shared a memory with me just the other day about the day I went away. He was in school and when he got home you were there waiting for him. You had to gently break it to him that I had went away again and that you were there to take care of him for awhile. Years later he asked you about that memory and said, “why did you take me with you after my mother went away?”, and you said, “because I was so sad that you were all alone and you were such a little guy.” And you did take care of him and in turn helped my mom until she was in the position to take care of Joshua. Tommy, I loved you then, I love you as I write this. I will forever love you. I remember calling you the very day I was released from state prison and telling you how sorry I was. It was so very important that I shared with you how sorry I was for the things I allowed to go on in our lives. Many of my poor choices and decisions contributed to your own poor choices and I will forever be sad about that too. You kept trying to soften my guilt and shame during that call, and I love you for that. We all have our parts in this play and I will continue to own mine and know that I could have done better. I have done better and will continue to do so, in your name, in our James Boy’s name, and all those in our tribe. My Sweet Tommy Boy, I was already missing you the day you left us. Please tell our James Boy he isn’t missing anything here but I am missing him terribly. Thank you for all of the love you have given me. Tell all the Boys I love them too…You will forever remain one of the greatest gifts in my life.
“No Matter What…”
Darlene Chambers
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